Every breakup is painful. But some hurt more than others, this is especially the case when you think your ex is lying to me. So if he/she dumped you on a lie or even after a breakup, the unspoken still lingers and your ex hides behind false excuses, it inevitably hurts. Indeed, a human being needs answers to move forward and cannot grieve in love with sentences like “it’s not you, I’m me”. Especially since this kind of situation can cause an ambiguous relationship with the ex because it leaves hope where there really isn’t any.
Disappointment and despair inevitably await you when you find out or realize that your ex is lying to you and may have lied to you before when you were in a relationship! This is especially the case when there has been infidelity or when your ex next or next. Very often, during the coaching sessions I do, people I hang out with say to me: “Alexandre, my ex, lies to me all the time and I can’t understand why he/she acts like that and why he acts like so much of me. Is it that complicated be honest and play the franchise card?”. Unfortunately, not everything is so simple… However, you can change the situation.
In order to approach the situation as best as possible and above all to fix it, you must first understand why your ex is lying to you so that you can adopt the most effective strategy to stop it because as I will present a little later in this article, there are several ways to react.
Why is my ex lying to me?
In this article I want to focus on the lies of exes and if you want to know more about the person who was made to lie, I recommend this to read. The latter takes the psychological aspect of lying and will allow you to better understand the situation as a whole and the reasons why your ex is playing a double game.
However, it should be noted that a lie is an act or word that consists in deceiving a person by denying the truth and turning the situation to his advantage so as not to harm us.
If your ex is lying to you, it means that he would hide something from you in order to be in a position of strength and not to be at a disadvantage in the power relationship that is likely to be established between you. But it is also a way for him/her to encourage you to look at him/her benevolently. And it works as long as you don’t reveal his little merry-go-round !
Whether he/she wants you back or not, lying about certain things is completely to his/her advantage. Despite his/her lies and acting skills, you feel or even know that he/she is lying to you. However, what you don’t understand is why he/she behaves like that. And yet there are several obvious reasons, and one in particular stands out!
You see his game well and you say to yourself my ex has the next / my ex has the next, that may be why he / she is lying! actually, being in an ambiguous relationship with an ex does not necessarily mean that he/she belongs to you. If your ex continues to spend time with you to make the separation a little easier, it doesn’t mean he’s giving up on flirting.
So if you have the impression that he/she runs away from you very often, hides his/her phone or refuses a lot of appointments that you offer him/her, beware! Indeed, your ex certainly did things to hide for fear of getting hurt or the loss of a relationship you’ve had since the breakup.
If your ex is lying to you, it could be just to play or worse, to suffer ! If you hurt him/her a lot during the relationship or even because of the breakup, he/she might take revenge by lying to you and therefore try to provoke and hurt you.
If your ex lies quite regularly, it could also be because he/she has already moved on and you are just a part of his/her past and he/she already sees a future, without you. The only problem is that he/she can’t tell you clearly and therefore he/she he is lying to you to protect himself and not get hurt.
Finally, the last one the reason that pushes his ex to lie is simply that he is a manipulator or manipulator. If you find yourself in this situation, I invite you to read my dossier on manipulative people. This is especially the case when your your ex contacts you and then ignores you.
My ex is lying to me, what are the consequences?
Regardless of the situation, lying has no place because the short-term or long-term consequences are often irreversible.
Indeed, the fact that you lie openly can raise great doubts and risks, preventing you, perhaps, from crossing the path meet up with ex again. If you notice that he or she is doing too much, it is necessary to make him or her understand that it is necessary to stop lying because it does not make sense.
Moreover, the fact that he is not honest it breaks the trust you may have in each other and once it’s gone, it’s hard to get it back. This usually takes time and above all you will have to show your credentials during this period because if your ex catches you lying again, you’ll have to start all over again.
Another consequence of lying to your ex and still being able to get back together concerns the distrust aspect of you. Then it will be harder for him to believe in you, and your ex will doubt your behavior, but also your words.
So a word of advice if you are a liar or a liar, be careful not to get caught because the reaction will be immediate and above all your reports will change immediately. Instead of lying openly, it is better to avoid embarrassing questions because it is better to lie by mistake than to sink into meaningless explanations!
And if you tell yourself my ex is lying to me and want to know how to react, read the following carefully.
When a couple goes through a breakup, their relationship was not good. It is possible that your ex already lied to you while you were still in a relationship, which may explain the change in behavior and thus the end of your story. Either way, follow these 3 surefire tips to deal with your ex’s lies. By applying them you will see that your ex will come to his senses unless he is a myth and in that case I advise you to run away from him/her and never come back!
Talk to your ex directly about his lie
Confronting someone in public about their lies is hard enough and probably won’t help the person change! So absolutely avoid this option, especially if you have been forever from love for your ex.
It is best to discuss upsets or sensitive topics privately so that feelings of embarrassment and shame do not reach a boiling point. Calmly tell your ex that you think she lied or twisted the truth. Mention him or the specific lies you want to discuss and see his reaction. But above all, don’t overdo it if your goal is to calm the situation.
Just tell him that you understand his little game, but that it’s not dramatic if he/she confesses. As they say, a recognized guilt is half forgiven!
On the other hand, to get rid of lies that are too heavy, confronting the person with their lies will allow you to release that weight! Indeed, in most cases, the person will be so embarrassed by being exposed that they will stop lying. And if it was a delicate subject, you can be a little firmer.
The radio silence technique when my ex lies to me
If you spend all your time calling your ex and harassing him/her with text messages, it shouldn’t surprise you that he/she makes fun of you and spends time lying to you to get away from you. Tell yourself that your ex will see you and/or talk to you when he/she wants to.
Sometimes you are the source of your ex’s lies and you shouldn’t make him lie to you. So stop as soon as possible harass your former half.
Likewise, if he/she notices that you are spying on him/her or following his/her every move, he/she will be suspicious of you and lie to you even more!
If you are aware that your ex speaks Kannada then it is sometimes necessary to use the radio silence technique or at least take a distance. To learn more about SR, check out my special file by clicking here: I want to know all about radio silence. This way he/she won’t hear from you again and will wonder if you understood and if this is a way to get revenge. He/she will question his/her lies and will probably decide not to act like that again.
Rebuild yourself to face your ex’s lies
” My ex is lying to me “, must be accepted in order to turn the situation around or at least you don’t have to put up with lies that hurt anymore ! When an ex lies to us, we often tend not to think about ourselves, ignore ourselves and focus only on him/her and his/her fabrications. This context is perfectly understandable, but it is still one that should be avoided as much as possible.
If you want to have a chance to put an end to his lies, you must not neglect the personal side. In fact, if your ex realizes that his/her words have an effect on you, he/she will continue to play, while if you don’t care at all what he/she does or says, he/she will stop bothering you with his/her cover-ups.
That’s why you need to take care of yourself to get your confidence back! And that through a strong reconstruction so that you no longer listen to everything your ex can tell you.
Your love advisor,
Vladimir
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